March Blog

Illustration by Miki Howenstein

A sense of community—so comforting

JR: It is often said that people have become too isolated from one another, which warrants a need of more sense of community. How true, and how futile, this harping is without ensuring a desirable way to bring people together. Understanding that you are also part of the problem and trying to understand the other side are key. No wonder so many people wish to be alone—relationships can be troublesome when not approached respectfully. When our communication and relationships become compassionate, a conducive community spirit will surely follow.

PP: Think of one of your primary relationships. What is the problem with it, and how are you part of the problem? Admit it to yourself (or, better yet, to the other) and see what you can do to move towards resolving it.

PA: For me, having been brought up in a big family, being around others and heckling with them is simply a part of life, so I love getting big groups together for hiking, etc. Yet, I also have difficulties spending too much time with people, needing long periods of time to myself for reading, reflecting, writing, etc. On the other hand, my wife much prefers one-on-one, as being with large groups can be tiring for her. She's much better at talking with people individually and getting deeper with them. When I don't keep in mind our mutual gifts, troubles ensue; however, when I do treasure the good we both bring, our relationship blossoms.